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Platosgames 102M
3189 posts
9/24/2018 7:38 pm

Jesus, I read that entire thing, and I mean this in the most productive way possible. Girl, drop that dude..ignore that dude. Walk ...no run away from that dude.

I don't know you, obviously. And I don't know the entire situation. Which is always dangerous when giving advice. But no one, and I mean no one should sit around a be second option for anyone. It's easy to say, yes I'm here for you, but if they don't show it? It's just words on a screen, a phone, in person. Better yet, they shouldn't have to say it, you just know by their actions.

The line about, when you could be more supportive of him..Forgive my French..but yeah, fuck that. You already drug your daughter out, drove to get internet access. Yeah...fuck that.

Listen to your therapist.. Get out there and find someone else. Men are abundant, and honestly you could throw a dart, blindfolded at a group of men 2 miles away and hit a better prospect than that.

Hang in there, and I hope the best for you.

" I refuse to belong to any organization that would accept me as a member" Groucho Marx


allgud69xxx 50M
502 posts
9/24/2018 8:42 pm

Huh. That's quite a guy. NOT!

Seriously. I know my gender may be fairly challenged when it comes to understanding a woman, but that is just ridiculous (on his part). Especially the increase in attention when you push him (in the very minimal ways you did), and then the attention drifts off. I'm sorry, but after a couple of attempts to chart a more equitable course for your "interaction", (because in hindsight, "relationship" doesn't seem to fit) it might have been time to move on. Of course, a 20-20, arm-chair perspective, without being there to see the ebb-and-flow, doesn't count, so feel free to disregard my observations entirely.

And he felt you weren't supportive enough of him? That's rich. Unbelievably so, in fact. I have no idea what his little harem of hater-chicks (a term probably a little too generous to them) was all about. If these are the kinds of people he attracts or that are attracted to him, that might be another sign.

It's rather unfortunate to have spent 5 years on someone like that. Did you ever really get much out of the time spent, expect headache and heartache, overall? And, with the intimate communication, the sharing of yourself, that he affected your feelings for one of your favourite musical artists, and maybe more besides, it's like the final insult. That;s something I struggle with myself - music is very important to me, and I don't want an association with someone to tinge that.

In the end, obviously leave him in the dust. And learn that if it doesn't feel like a two-way street, it is most-likely a dead end. I wish I could say it'll be easier if you try again. I really wish I could. I know that you'll be able to discern it a lot sooner if things go like that again.

All you can do is put your head up, shoulders back and one foot in front of the other. Movin' forward, quickly away from him, is the only way. I wish you the best of fortune. I'm sure there's someone decent out there for you.

-- allgud69xxx

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seems6666 53F  
4838 posts
9/25/2018 8:10 am

Good post, and I feel your pain, but after being treated like shit.,. you need to block him in anyway possible and move on....One can only take so much before the last straw breaks the camels back,


citizen4722 66M  
74582 posts
9/25/2018 9:18 am

That's five years that you could have done a whole lot better with
I don't normally judge but you are 'well rid' as they say.
I'm glad to know you the second time around in your blog.


RipItRockItSpoil 58M  
444 posts
9/25/2018 4:50 pm

So sorry for your pain Hugssss


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positively4you 74F  
4605 posts
9/26/2018 6:28 am

Thanks for telling your story. My take now on this site is that it is not healthy for a relationship for the most part. Way back before internet, relationships stood a better chance. You met, dated and all that. And, there was not the instant exposure to people with the click of a mouse.
Now, a man or woman can interact in a split second, can hide, can show up, can lie, can juggle. It takes little work unlike before the web. I guess I am old school. I like dating. I think I am on the wrong site for love, friends maybe but not love. So it is a bitter sweet venue here. He is a player for sure. He wants all of the toys, not just one. He revels in the female admiration he gets here. As I have said, my ideal man is computer stupid.
Our bad experiences can only make us stronger. I recently had the in and out guy and I only tolerated it for a year. He wasn’t as bad as that guy, but I just cut if off and feel better about it. No man is worth devaluing my time or esteem. Best of luck to you.


WilliamLvPk 54M

9/30/2018 7:44 am

Love is pain. But sometimes it's worth it.

You're more than strong enough.

The eyes are the windows to the soul.
I have no soul.
My eyes are hidden.


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